I tend to believe that a player's musical ability pretty much follows their personal conversational ability. If a person is timid, the
hide-in-the-corner type, then that player's true musical ideas may never get heard because those ideas will never get projected as forcefully as they should. On the opposite
end of the spectrum, I think we all know folks who like to dominate every single conversation whether or not they have any knowledge of the topic being discussed. There is barely
a breath for anyone else to chime in to share ideas. I don't think I need to describe what a player of this sort does to the musical cohesiveness of a band.
Then you have the person who is polite enough to remain silent while others are talking. This accomplishes several goals. Number one, it lets others feel valued by being allowed to
share what they want to share. Number two, listening opens a person's mind to hearing ideas that he/she may never have thought about. There is an old saying that one cannot learn a single thing while talking, it is only by listening that one learns. Number three, silence gives a person time to come up with the perfect rebuttal. How many of us have opened mouth and inserted foot by simply engaging our tongue before engaging our minds..?? Likewise, how many of us have ever been in the middle of a hot topic and experienced someone who came out with a response
that was so on target that no one had a single thing to say when this person was finished...??
True conversational eloquence is characterized by the ability to be brief and to the point, appropriate and fitting to the topic being discussed, and the ability to inject passion, character and/or humor to the conversation without offending. A musician who possesses these same traits when applied to musical conversations will always stand apart from the crowd.
Search through this forum and study the verbal responses of the master players such as Buddy or Lloyd and the manner in which their opinions are conveyed.
Then put on an album or CD and listen to their playing as well as the musical interaction with other players in the band.
Musical conversations are every bit as engaging as verbal conversations, and a lot of the same rules apply to both.
Joe Rogers