Just some basics here.
A 30 to 40 watt soldering iron should be fine for what you're doing. Higher wattage=higher heat. If you're ever working around pickups, keep with the 30-40 watt rule. Higher watt soldering irons and soldering guns can de-magnetize pups. Not a good thang
You can damage/destroy pots and other things with excessive heat, even from a 30-40 watter. You can also attach a heatsink between the area being soldered and the rest of the pot or whatever. Small alligator clips work well. This is not essential, but a good idea if you aren't experienced.
Keep your tip clean by having a wet sponge to wipe it on.
Keep it tinned by melting some solder on it. It should look nice and shiny, and will conduct heat well. A dull-looking tip won't, and you'll know it. Wipe off excess on the sponge.
Preheat surfaces to be soldered. If it's a lug on a pot, a couple seconds of contact will suffice. Pre-tinning the lug is a good idea. Just melt some solder on it. Not big gobs, just a small amount will do.
Tin your wire leads prior to soldering. Get a little solder on your iron and work it around the bare wire to coat it.
Now that you've tinned your wire and tinned your lug, hold the wire to the lug and apply the tip to solder them together.
A good solder joint should be shiny in appearance. A dull-looking joint indicates a "cold" connection. It may work, it may not.
Once you're satisfied with your work, trim any excess wire that could potentially contact something and cause a short.
I like the silver solder that RS sells in little tubes. Melts nice and comes in small diameters. I think it's nice to work with. YMMV.
I used to pay someone to solder in pickups and pots, and do wiring in my guitars. I finally got tired of spending my money that way and learned to do it myself. It's easy...you just have to do it a few times and get the hang of it.<font size="1" color="#8e236b"><p align="center">[This message was edited by Geoff Brown on 11 January 2006 at 12:15 AM.]</p></FONT>