gay country singers ?

Donna Dodd · Post by **Donna Dodd** » 8 Jan 2004 3:29 am

Oh, and David Donald -
A collie (like Lassie). Non judgmental. Loyal. Smart. Can do almost any trick. Never tilts his head side to side like the RCA dog. (non-verbal communications). Knows when to be serious. Knows when to be funny. Will even give up his comfortable bed to guests and sleep in the barn when necessary. We love you, David!!!! And what dog would EVER argue with Lassie?

David L. Donald · Post by **David L. Donald** » 8 Jan 2004 3:48 am

Hi Donna, you are, as ususal, too kind my friend.

My most recent dog is a Malinois/Belgian shepard cross called Tilly.
And she is nice smart and loyal.
But her nickname was Tilt, she has huge ears and was ALWAYS triangulating sounds.
Like on land sonar.
She would even listen to food.

The dog before was Heather a 205 lb Great Dane, No question about house invasion with her.
One listen and people would not even think about trying the window.
She would bark at the classic 6 pane window looking onto the driveway,
and her bark eventually loosened two panes at the bottom...
But a big sweetie.

I don't think either dog was gay, but then they never mentioned a preference. [This message was edited by David L. Donald on 08 January 2004 at 03:53 AM.]

Jim Cohen · Post by **Jim Cohen** » 8 Jan 2004 5:27 am

<BLOCKQUOTE>quote:<HR>Jim Cohen - A Border Collie. He rounds people up - brings them together. Never bites, but gives the "evil eye" and intimidates through crossword puzzles.
<HR></BLOCKQUOTE>Actually, Donna dear, our dogs have the same name, but, for the sake of you crossword puzzlers, mine's spelled differently: "Brandy". That way the "Y" fits perfectly with the word "Yuck", the clue for which is my reaction to hateful, homophobic people...

 "Gives the evil eye"?? Moi??

Robbie Bossert · Post by **Robbie Bossert** » 8 Jan 2004 6:05 am

WHATEVER SELLS RECORDS!!!!!!!!!!!

Robbie

Dave Van Allen · Post by **Dave Van Allen** » 8 Jan 2004 7:50 am

Don't ask, Don't tell. It's "safer" that way. The capacity for the ignorant to make one's life miserable knows no bounds. Why ask for trouble? Particularly in the "fan base" for country music. But if one does come out, I'll still buy the records, if the music is good... I just hope they can get a gig. that is my response to the thread topic. My feeling on this is informed by the following:

I am not gay, but I was raised in a loving home by a gay parent who lived "in the closet" for many years, and who only "came out" to me (but not 'publicly') late in life (although I knew and went thru my own adolescent consternation dealing with the fact). Had my parent been openly gay it would certainly have affected employment opportunities on their career track(the equivilent of a 'fan base'I guess) and jeopardized the ability to keep our household and family together.

I also play music regularly with an openly gay musician. I don't think his sexuality has affected his musicianship in any negative way. In the venues we've played nobody gives a rat's, and I've learned in conversations that he feels more comfortable being himself and 'damn the torpedoes' than he ever did in the closet.

I have also played with several folks who I suspected (or knew) were gay, but who weren't "out", and I believe the closet (not their sexuality) affected their musicianship by virtue of stress and fear of disclosure, with them turning to drugs/alcohol to "deal" with it...

I feel labels like "rug muncher" should not have been used in a serious discussion of the thread topic- it is perjorative and homophobic, akin to using ethnic slurs or anti Semitic language.

I am sure there are others of us who have gay family members, closeted or not, who can understand how I feel about this.

and ebb, I like Randy Travis too.

Chippy Wood · Post by **Chippy Wood** » 8 Jan 2004 8:13 am

Don't bother me as long as they leave me alone.

Ron Page · Post by **Ron Page** » 8 Jan 2004 8:21 am

The question seems relevant because in this video age so much of the music business and record sales are driven by sex appeal, rather than by radio and music.

I don't think the artists' sexual orientation is directly relevant to the music they play unless it’s somehow featured or promoted in their songs. Country music being considered, as Harlan Howard put it, "3 chords and the truth", the artists' credibility is at the core if this issue. Country music fans want to believe that the artist believes what they are saying. So choice of material might be an limited. As a case in point, I never got into 14-year-old girls singing about love and commitment.

My favorite, Merle Haggard, has lived much of what he's written into his music and that's part of what makes it of interest to me. If I found out that Hag was gay I’d still consider his music tops. The real question, one I can't answer, is would I ever develop such longstanding appreciation for the musical works of a gay artist. I don't know. So much of country music is love songs and we often connect with the artists on an emotional level. I don't think that connection would be there.

If they want to sing songs promoting a gay lifestyle then I think they'll hit the wall. In the same way that I don't plan to buy Willie's latest song because I don't agree with the message he's promoting.

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HagFan

Stephen Gambrell · Post by **Stephen Gambrell** » 8 Jan 2004 9:22 am

Well, it bothers me, that they've appropriated the word "gay." How many songs do you feel a little wierd singing, now...?
Lemmesee..."Wild Side of Life"-"the glamour of the gay night life has lured you"
What about Gene Watson's song "I'm doing everything I used to do, BUTT loving you"
And, and, uh, PRISON SONGS????

Ben Slaughter · Post by **Ben Slaughter** » 8 Jan 2004 10:09 am

To quote Hank Williams Jr's tune "Dinosaur":

"Your singing a song about making love to your drummer, Well gay guitar pickers don't turn me on..."

And Charlie Daniels' "Uneasy Rider '88":

"Take me back where the women are women and the men are men..."

Do I personally care, no. Would it affect the "country" fan base, without a doubt.

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Ben
Zum D10, NV400, POD, G&L Guitars, etc, etc.

chas smith · Post by **chas smith** » 8 Jan 2004 10:51 am

If a singer is marginally talented, but is dressed like he could be "slappin' leather" in a gay bar, I can understand his appeal to the ladies, but you have to wonder about his male fan base.....

Post by **Joey Ace** » 8 Jan 2004 10:53 am

Back in October, 2003 a production company was in Nashville seeking an "openly gay country singer" for a major promotion.

I wonder what became of that.

As for Charlie Pride,
it is my belief that he made it on the strength of his records with their strong country sound, before anyone noticed he was black.

In those days segration was pretty widespread, especially in Country Music.
But those were the days when you did not know what the band or artist looked like when you first heard the record.

I've heard that Charlie surprized many a DJ when he showed up for an on air interview.

David Cobb · Post by **David Cobb** » 8 Jan 2004 10:54 am

Amen Stephen. It's too bad that a three letter word that used to mean "lively and merriful" in most contexts now typifies something that most find abhorrent.
I don't think the gay/ethnic/anti-Semitic analogy really has any legs and is an insult to ethnic groups.
The gay community has tried to use that argument.
Just sign your CD and shake my hand Mr. Country Star and lets let it go at that.[This message was edited by David Cobb on 08 January 2004 at 11:00 AM.]

Adrian Wulff · Post by **Adrian Wulff** » 8 Jan 2004 12:10 pm

Here's my thought on the "Don't ask, don't tell" or "I don't mind as long as they don't make an issue of it."

Does this mean a gay artist can't:

Dance with their partner in public

Show normal public affection (peck on the cheek or hand holding) public

Thank their partner on stage for their love and support?

Seems like there's a lot of things that straight people do everyday in public that they take for granted or that they don't realize are statements about their sexual orientation.

"Don't ask,don't tell" sounds too much like "seperate but equal" to me.

I think a gay country star could hit the big time but they would have to be as tactful and
self-effacing (not sure that's the right word exactly) as Charlie Pride was when he had to "come out" as a black man.

Dave Van Allen · Post by **Dave Van Allen** » 8 Jan 2004 12:15 pm

t'was not the word "gay" I referred to- it was the derogatory phrase "rug muncher" in reference to lesbian.

I think the ethnic analogy is quite appropriate why? lessee-nature? or nurture?- I am on the side of folks being born "gay" therefore an ethnic analogy seems fair - you can't help how you are born ...(of course I also think certain folks are born to be steel guitarists)

if you think it IS a matter of nurture, that for instance a mother can turn her boy into a homosexual by coddling him, then let's equate it with, oh , say, "redneck."

One ain't born a redneck, but one's raisin' can sure turn a person into one. One may even take a perverse pride in refering to oneself as such.
In much the same way black folks have taken the "N Word" and turned it from an ethnic slur to a cultural endearment among themselves, male homosexuals have taken the derogatory "queer" and done the same. but I am pretty sure lesbians don't call themselves "rug munchers".

Therefore it was and is used as a slur...

anyway, even if the music's good, it still won't matter to the average country music fan... KD Lang proved that much. She made some great country records, recorded with Owen Bradley fer cryin out loud- yet her primary success is among pop fans.

so now that I have possibly alienated a good many more of you than I had previously done, I take my leave...

Eric West · Post by **Eric West** » 8 Jan 2004 12:32 pm

Matter of fact, and it blows my mind that I "forgot", but for the first 7 years of my "career, I worked with a "gay" gal. Mary Curtis.

The first band I worked in with her was "run" by a guy named Harlan that was a jerk. He was totally "homophobic", and started making comments, and asked me what I thought of "it" with the idea of making trouble for her. I simply told him that if it "Really mattered" then he would have told me "before I joined the band". That shut him up.

I worked with her in three different bands. She wasn't the "cigarette pack in the t shirt sleeve" gay, she just liked women. More than once I used to have to remind her when swooping on 'Chicks' that "I saw her first". I have some REAL funny stories.

What I found was that the usual pitfall of the "female singer diddling the drummer" or whatever problems were virtually non existant.

UNTIL, I might add she got "healed" with the guitar player. All of a sudden we didn't rehearse, she didn't book the band very far ahead, and STUPID OLD ERIC was the "Last to know". I blew up, of course as my life depended on my music money, and told her I liked her better when she was "gay". Well, they fired me and withing a month, that was the end of that band... Funny I'd kind of "forgotten this".

I remember my "Sh*t Howdy Lesbian Lawsuit" post a year or so ago when we canned her and got fired at one of her girl friends' club jobs, sued them and won.

Here's where my 'rednecketyness' comes in I suppose.

With women, I believe and of the opinion that it is not "abhorrent". In Western Society it is perfectly OK for unrelated women to sleep together non-sexually ( or otherwise I suppose, as "who knows?") in say motel accommodations, where it is not for men. I don't know how they do it in France...

Further, I don't believe that women that are intimate with each other are gay. SO shoot me. I think they're just either slightly confused, when one decides to become a "guy" or just "extra feminine". They rarely do it successfully. It's rough "out here". I know of a couple cases that I won't bore us with. One was a janitor in my first grade school, that nobody knew was a woman, and another was a female tow truck company operator Joey, on Mt Hood that runs a Semi-Wrecker.

One case a grand daughter of an excavator I worked for wanted to become a man. She "married" a stripper named Brandy. I saw her after being gone from the company for a couple years, and she/he looked really bad, skinny and splotchey. I asked her how "it was going". She allowed as how the stripper took all her money and burned her/him in bills, and basically ruined her/his life. I said "Well Karen, they all go nuts sooner or later.. Welcome to the world of men..

I have a "girl friend" that has a "girl friend", and I just don't see "the harm"..

If anything, I think it's "Cute" and to me it's kind of a 'status symbol'. She's actually just a casual acquanitence, but I kind of "pretend otherwise"...

With men I believe it's an unsanitary and despicable act. If I know about it, I don't like it. We had SEVERAL of them in the AF before the "policy things", and we didn't really care nor harass them, we just didn't "hang with them" in MOST cases.

If they make the decision to "let people know about it" I wouldn't work for them, hire them, buy their records, or support them in any way. I have worked for and with child molesters thieves and murderers similarly, and divested myself of them at the nearest opportunity.

With women, like I told Mary Curtis, "As long as I don't look out and see a bunch of crew cutted women with packs of camels in their t-shirt sleeves, I could care less."

Besides who among us red blooded guys wouldn't....... (nevermind)...

Guess I'll get shot now....

Oh well, things were going slow here anyhow..

EJL

PS. Keep in mind that MANY times you'll see straight women dancing with each other, and if you care to check, often "gay" ones, in the most red neckety bars. Nobody seems to notice. Back East the old "Paul Jones" line would have plenty women together in it.

Guys?, Anbody remember Stalag 17?. I've seen more than one two man tap dancing, Irish Jig, or Clogger deals, even in the local truck stop.

As far as "gay couples" doing this "Support Thing" "onstage". Go ahead and try it Adrian, theres a lot more Gay Truckdrivers then you think..
[This message was edited by Eric West on 08 January 2004 at 01:23 PM.]