Egos built on insincere compliments.

Kirk Eipper · Post by **Kirk Eipper** » 21 May 2012 9:16 am

Earnest Bovine wrote:You could try "I liked the way it ended".

or

"I really dig where you're trying to come from"

or

"You sounded great,can you help me carry my stuff?"

Stuart Legg · Post by **Stuart Legg** » 21 May 2012 9:18 am

Bo it's a terrible coincidence how every band you play with has an ego problem.
Now I'm not saying you're one of the egos. I'm just saying you always seem to manage to be around the area.

Dana Blodgett · Post by **Dana Blodgett** » 21 May 2012 9:18 am

Right on Ransome(Nick)! The most intelligent thing I've read on the forum to date!
Sincerely, Dana

Donny Hinson · Post by **Donny Hinson** » 21 May 2012 10:12 am

...I was, for some considerable time, a fairly unknown quantity among my peers, and that granted me both respect from some, and a great aura of mystery among others who were in attendance. Now, though, I was to be formally introduced, and then the veil of unknowing would be solemnly lifted. I met and greeted many, and the room was abuzz with anticipation as I took the stage. I played with alternations of reckless emotional abandon and profound technical precision, and at the conclusion of my performance, the entire room was talking only of me. Propriety, however, and the possible presence of children and ladies, precludes my repeating their remarks.

Jim Cohen · Post by **Jim Cohen** » 21 May 2012 10:15 am

ROTFLMAO!! Donny, whence that wonderful quote?!

Bo Legg · Post by **Bo Legg** » 21 May 2012 11:25 am

One way to curb an ego is by not practicing PSG. As a results you'll have no expectations of improvement nor any allusions that compliments are other than insincere.

Roger Rettig · Post by **Roger Rettig** » 21 May 2012 11:31 am

"I didn't know such music was possible..."

Stuart Legg · Post by **Stuart Legg** » 21 May 2012 12:52 pm

Seems that folks are getting compliments on some profound statements here. I don't know if they are sincere but I thought maybe i would contribute a profound philosophical reply and get a little of that praise for myself.
Here goes: A cat can have kittens in an oven but that don't make them biscuits.

Herb Steiner · Post by **Herb Steiner** » 21 May 2012 1:15 pm

"your contribution to the art of music cannot be measured..."

Jim Cohen · Post by **Jim Cohen** » 21 May 2012 1:17 pm

"On a scale of 1 to 10, you're off the charts, man!"

Brian McGaughey · Post by **Brian McGaughey** » 21 May 2012 1:29 pm

chris ivey wrote:loved your post, bo! you're the greatest!

Chris...that was your best post ever...really!...I'm not just saying that...

Mike Neer · Post by **Mike Neer** » 21 May 2012 1:48 pm

Me to steel player:
"Hey, man, I'm looking for a substitute steel player to cover some gigs for me...do you know any?"

Substitute instrument of your choice.

Mike Schwartzman · Post by **Mike Schwartzman** » 21 May 2012 2:01 pm

Egos...What to do? What to do? Everybody has one (at least that's what Freud said).

When these pesky little buggers run wild with compliments (sincere or not sincere)... even then, the only ego you can tone down is your own. Try this...

When you hear a compliment like:

"On a scale of 1 to 10, you're off the charts, man!"

or
"your contribution to the art of music cannot be measured..."

Say aloud: "Aw shucks, thanks man...I'm not really much,but I'm all I ever think about."

Guaranteed to get you at least 5 minutes of shrunken ego playing time.

Niels Andrews · Post by **Niels Andrews** » 21 May 2012 2:38 pm

Some even post there playing on You Tube! And people tell them they are good and they believe it.

Steve English · Post by **Steve English** » 21 May 2012 3:04 pm

Dude....I've played with a lot of guitar players, and you're one of them!

Corey Chapman · Post by **Corey Chapman** » 21 May 2012 3:34 pm

"Your playing was sloppy but at least your tone sucked."

Ray Montee · Post by **Ray Montee** » 21 May 2012 4:38 pm

Is the handsome, clean shaven guy pictured above, named "BO"......., the same olde dude that used to be attired in a snappy looking Tuxedo and hiding behind a vast growth of beard?

Just don't look like the same guy.........
This guy looks so much younger!

Roual Ranes · Post by **Roual Ranes** » 21 May 2012 5:57 pm

I remembered a job I did eons of time ago when I was a "hero". I had to have two replacement people at a last minute notice. I should have cancelled but I didn't. When we were packing up after the job, a couple of guys came by and one said: "Hell of a job fellows". I didn't wonder how he meant it.

Larry Rafferty · Post by **Larry Rafferty** » 21 May 2012 6:10 pm

I do not have an ego problem! However, many people have told me that they have compared my playing to some of the greatest steel players.

They all tell me...that compared to other steel players, I really stink!

Bo Borland · Post by **Bo Borland** » 22 May 2012 6:23 pm

the first time I met a particular pedal steel player I went up after the set to say hi
and said hey, you don't suck

I also subbed one night with a gal who told me she had a golden throat, she also told not to play the strange chord , a diminished, After I got paid I told her I had worked with a lot of good girl singers but she's not one of them.

John De Maille · Post by **John De Maille** » 22 May 2012 9:08 pm

I was reared, well, to be courteous to people. So, I almost always give a thumbs up or nice job to most people. A lot of times it goes against my grain, but, I can't be derogatory to them. I'm even hesitant to give constructive criticism for fear of insulting them. On the other hand, I don't take praise comfortably. Maybe because I haven't gotten much. I'm not used to it. So, I don't have an over blown ego. And, I can't stand bursting anybody else's. However, I don't mind constructive criticism directed at me.

Doug Beaumier · Post by **Doug Beaumier** » 22 May 2012 10:57 pm

A guy in a club once said to me... "I see that you guys are trying that new Vince Gill song".

I seem to remember reading that Buddy Emmons used to have card that he would hand to musicians, saying "I really dig that tune you were trying to play."

Bo Legg · Post by **Bo Legg** » 24 May 2012 7:32 am

Ray Montee wrote:Is the handsome, clean shaven guy pictured above, named "BO"......., the same olde dude that used to be attired in a snappy looking Tuxedo and hiding behind a vast growth of beard?

Just don't look like the same guy.........
This guy looks so much younger!

glad you pointed that out I mistakenly put in a picture of President George W Bush. Here is my picture.

Jim Cohen · Post by **Jim Cohen** » 24 May 2012 7:53 am

Doug Beaumier wrote:Buddy Emmons used to have card that he would hand to musicians, saying "I really dig that tune you were trying to play."

He also used to have cards that said "Turn UP the f*****g Steel Guitar!"

They were made to look like a folded $10 bill on the outside, with the "message" printed inside. I remember one night at Deeman's Den handing one to Paul F. and he kept refusing to take it, thinking that I was tipping him. I finally got him to take it and unfold it, and he nearly fell out of his packaseat upon reading it!

(Paul, if you're reading this, do you happen to remember that episode?)

Don Brown, Sr. · Post by **Don Brown, Sr.** » 24 May 2012 9:10 am

Somewhat of an interesting thread.

Truth being, there's not a person on here, without some form (or other) of an ego. That's plain fact. It's not only in music, but in just as many other areas of life as well.

Could a person really be good at anything, without feeling he was capable of doing his job well? I think not.

I also believe that when compliments are given out, for the most part, they are sincere. Otherwise if a person really feels a person doesn't deserve a compliment, then why say anything at all. Sometimes, saying nothing at all, says it all.

Does anyone on here really feel that the folks on top of their game, regardless of who they are, doesn't feel they are good at what they do? Well, if they do, then according to some, they have an ego problem.

Infact, if they didn't, they wouldn't be worth their salt. The real honesty comes with some of the ones posting as if they had no ego at all, when they know they really do, but try not to admit to it.

One question I have. Does anyone think a person would go to steel guitar shows and get up in front of many of the best players around, and perform if in fact, they didn't feel they were any good at playing? That's nonsense to even think.

So yes, get use to it, whether or not you care to admit to the truth of the matter, and that is that we ALL have an ego, regardless of what field we are in.

Arguments are expected, and welcomed, but fact is fact.

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