Females in bands
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- Jaclyn Jones
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Females in bands
I have been running an add in Houston looking for a new band to play lead/steel with. One band answered and was very interested. They have been looking for a replacement for over 3 months. That is until they found out I was a woman. I did not note that in the add. They told me that a female would crimp the style. He said they cuss and like to go out back and water a tree together. They felt a women would be uncomfortable. I was actualy ok with the cussing, boys will be boys. I have to admit the tree would tax my talents!
Next add I will add "female".
Next add I will add "female".
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- Jaclyn Jones
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Thanks Richard. I have been playing for over 45 years and I just got a laugh from those guys. They are all older guys but like I said boys are always boys, even if they are over 50!
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Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
http://www.youtube.com/user/jackiej1950
Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
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Together? Yikes!Jaclyn Jones wrote: and like to go out back and water a tree together.
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Girl in the band
I've had the same girl in my band for 30 years and wouldn't have it any other way.She started at age 18 and missed a short time giving birth to her two kids but we still play 2 or 3 times a month.I think it all boils down to respect.
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Sounds like you dodged a bullet there, Jaclyn, I believe you can do a lot better than that and I have never heard you play.
My daughter once applied for a job as an office manager for a large construction firm. The owner, mindful of the "working man's" world, suggested that fellows coming in from the worksite might occasionally use some rough language in the office and gingerly asked her if she would be be able to handle it. My daughter, having been raised in a world of musicians and artists, replied with something along the lines of "Oh, no problem I'd probably just tell them to shut the f#^& up!"
She got the job....
My daughter once applied for a job as an office manager for a large construction firm. The owner, mindful of the "working man's" world, suggested that fellows coming in from the worksite might occasionally use some rough language in the office and gingerly asked her if she would be be able to handle it. My daughter, having been raised in a world of musicians and artists, replied with something along the lines of "Oh, no problem I'd probably just tell them to shut the f#^& up!"
She got the job....
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- Jaclyn Jones
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A picture says a thousand words!
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Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
http://www.youtube.com/user/jackiej1950
Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
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The era in which I grew up musically............
During my many years of 'band playing'......
women in the band were taboo!!
Nothing derog was EVER SAID about any woman but the band leaders had found over the years that sooner or later, two or more of the men in the band would sooner or later split up the band with their ego/pack control mentality caused by their undying desire to be the first and/or ONLY, to conquer the new gal. It was a guy kinda thing.
It was typically the drummer or banjer player that would initiate such an issue. While they were locked in conflict and the band was beginning to suffer, the skinny fiddle player with the great looking automobile, would usually move in on their conceived private territory.
Hopefully times are changing. Good Luck to you in your playing-job search!
women in the band were taboo!!
Nothing derog was EVER SAID about any woman but the band leaders had found over the years that sooner or later, two or more of the men in the band would sooner or later split up the band with their ego/pack control mentality caused by their undying desire to be the first and/or ONLY, to conquer the new gal. It was a guy kinda thing.
It was typically the drummer or banjer player that would initiate such an issue. While they were locked in conflict and the band was beginning to suffer, the skinny fiddle player with the great looking automobile, would usually move in on their conceived private territory.
Hopefully times are changing. Good Luck to you in your playing-job search!
- Jaclyn Jones
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That ego thing was part of the issue in my last band. After 4 years of the bass player always being right, no matter if he was dead wrong, I gave up. That and lack of proffesional behavior. His wife played drums and it was their band. If both of us aggreed, he always did not. We would suggest the opposite of what we wanted so he would do the thing we did want!
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Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
http://www.youtube.com/user/jackiej1950
Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
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I didn't think it was wrong, just thought the reason was funny.
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Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
http://www.youtube.com/user/jackiej1950
Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
- Larry Robbins
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Hi Jaclyn,
I'm one of your subs so I have heard you play. It may just be a ego thing!! Sorry to say but a lot of fellows just plain are jeaolus of a Gal thats a better player than them!! and thats the cold hard truth!! as long as there is not a problem with any "monkey business" going on between the guys and any Gals in the group, should not be a problem
Good luck in your search...I am sure you will be fine!
Larry
I'm one of your subs so I have heard you play. It may just be a ego thing!! Sorry to say but a lot of fellows just plain are jeaolus of a Gal thats a better player than them!! and thats the cold hard truth!! as long as there is not a problem with any "monkey business" going on between the guys and any Gals in the group, should not be a problem
Good luck in your search...I am sure you will be fine!
Larry
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Hi Jaclyn. I am so sorry you are having these problems. I fronted a band on Surfside beach 5 nites per week and had a female piano player and she sang her rear off. Harmony or lead vocal. When I hired her, I hired her because of her talent. At one time. Janet Lynn and I played twin steels in a band. Worked great. Please don't be discouraged by these neanderthals. Your talent will win out. Come to the 1st. Sunday in May steel club meeting in Katy. Hang in there and I will see you down the road. Jody.
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Hi Jaclyn. Sorry that your having a trouble with narrow minded musicians where your at. My best to you on your job search.... Your friend from the north side of houston.... Jack
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Respect
Don Discher, you made sure she respected you right, sorry, kidding. I work in a quite different environment and the guys don't want no gals. I am shocked myself as they are younger than I. A lot younger, which isn't all that difficult anymore.
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- Alan Tanner
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Interesting subject. I have worked in many bands with women in them, and I gotta say, it usually ended up in some sort of problems. I would also say on thinking back, that it was almost always caused by either someones wife, or the lady herself becoming jealous of something or other. TWO females is worse, especially singers. Three times in my experience, it degenerated into "she sang MY song" or, "look at what she is wearing"...etc etc. This got very tiresome and I determined many years ago NOT to go thru that again if I could avoid it. Married couples are better...but if they are having a spat and not speaking it carries over to the stage, and they will often look for support from the other band members, which causes some division also. On the other hand, I have worked with some very fine and talented lady musicians who were top notch. They let every one know right out of the gate that they were there for music and nothing more. These worked out the best, and resulted in some life long friendships. I HATE it when a group of musicians has to act like a pack of dogs when women are concerned, but I guess it's a guy thing. I once knew a bass player who was around 55/60 who was ALWAYS slobbering over some young girl in the crowd. I asked him once why he bothered. I said "even if somebody decides on you, what are ya gonna do?? Sooner or later yer gonna have to talk to her". He replied he was not looking for conversation. Ha ha...that was that. Anyway, just hang on. Sooner or later something will open up for you. Music is/can be a really ruff biz, even when it needs not to be.
Are there a lot of bands in your area???
Are there a lot of bands in your area???
- Jaclyn Jones
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You would think that in Houston that country would be predominant. There are lot of bands but a bunch are screamers or rock/blues. I will find something or start a group. There have been a few calls after I added "female" to the text. My husband thinks it's funny and so do I.
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http://www.youtube.com/user/jackiej1950
Lots of guitars, banjos, mandos and a Mullen G2-D10,PAC D10, 1966 Marlen D10,Line6 x3 Pro, Peavey Powerslide, Michael Kelly Dobro and a "Fox Vintage Amp" model 5F8A. Oh Yea, a very patient husband.
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